3 September 2010 / 24 Elul 5770

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A very educational and interesting youtube about Passover. A little bit fast in my opinion, but definitely a brief and very useful introduction to Passover. If you want to learn why we celebrate Passover, What is a Passover Seder,  When we celebrate Passover, and hear the answers for the 4 questions we ask every passover, this video is worth watching.



A funny and creative Passover youtube. More appealing to those of us who already know a bunch about Passover. If you are a Passover novice, you may want to watch this video after you did some homework, as this video makes references to Passover customs and rituals that you might never heard of.



Fotolia_14808509_XS1Since the Jewish people are practicably a minority in the United States (about 2.5%), it may be a challenge to find a Jewish Match especially if you live in an area with a low concentration of the Jewish population. Although it may be a challenge, it is definitely not impossible. Here are a few actions you can take to make the process of finding your Jewish match easier and faster:

  1. Join a Jewish Dating site like Yenta911.com - Shameless self promotion? perhaps, However, here are the facts:  Over 4 million Americans are using the internet to find a date. According to research, every other American knows someone who physically dates a person whom he/she met online and third American know more than one. Online dating is not just popular it’s effective. Jewish dating sites are the best way to find other Jewish singles, especially if you are in an area with lower concentration of the Jewish population. Areas with smaller Jewish population naturally have smaller congregations, fewer Jewish singles events and in general less opportunities to meet Jewish singles. So, sign up for a Jewish dating site today. Most sites will let you post your profile for free.
  2. Join a Generic Dating site: If you are looking for a Jewish match, your best option is to go to a website specialized for Jewish singles. However, you can also join a generic dating site. Most sites allow you to search by religion. Naturally, singles who are going to a generic type dating site, may be less concerned about the religious aspect, nevertheless, it may be useful.
  3. Check out your local Jewish Congregation Website: Most Jewish congregations today have a website that contains a wealth of information. Some have information about Jewish singles event and some even organize their own Jewish Singles event. In most cases, you may attend the events even though you are not a member, usually for a fee higher than a member fee.  Also some big Jewish congregations have a twitter and a Facebook pages. It may be useful to follow their tweets and add yourself as a fan on their Facebook page, for no cost you will get invaluable information that will enrich your Jewish cultural life and may help you to find your Jewish soul-mate quicker.
  4. Attend Jewish Singles events: Jewish singles events are organized by several organizations such as the Jewish federation, different Jewish congregations, major Jewish dating sites, private companies that organize parties and speed dating events and sometimes even individuals. The best way to find these events is to go to websites like: meetup.com, letmypeoplego.com, planitjewish.com, The Jewish federation, the different congregation websites in your area, or just to use your favorite search engine, you will be amazed how much information you will find.
  5. Find Volunteering opportunities through your Jewish congregation or other Jewish non-profit organizations: It may not be a direct way to meet Jewish singles. However, volunteering is a very rewarding opportunity to meet like minded people and to give back to the community. It can also be a bonding experience with other volunteers. Granted, the volunteers might not all be singles and the age range can vary, but it can be a way to get a little exposure and recognition within the Jewish community.
  6. Try some local Jewish Matchmaker services: Not a first choice for many people, as the personal service can turn too personal, no to say ‘pushy’. Certainly these yentas still exist and they probably know the most eligible Jewish singles in your area.  This is certainly an option, however, proceed with caution. Make sure that you are using someone professional, who knows the business and protects your privacy.
  7. Join Jewish groups with common interest or take classes/seminars about Jewish subjects: Jewish groups, classes and seminars are widely available all over the United States. Examples would be: Jewish hiking groups, Jewish book clubs, Jewish cooking classes, seminars about Jewish subjects etc. A good way to find those group are through the  JCC (Jewish community center) , at: www.jcca.org, click on the ‘find Jcc’ Menu to find a JCC in your area. Each  JCC website is different, however, most of them provide information about classes, seminars, and common interest groups. You can also check the Jewish federation website, which also have multiple websites based on geographic area, go to : http://www.sfjcf.org/resources/guide/ to find the Jewish federation website in your area.
  8. Join Jewish Networking groups: Although not a direct way to meet Jewish singles, a very effective way to get connected with Jewish professionals who may be helpful in this area as well, after they get to know you better. There are Jewish professional groups almost for every occupation: Jewish Lawyers, Jewish doctors, Jewish Entrepreneurs etc.
  9. Subscribe to Jewish bulletins in your area or Jewish magazines: This is a great way to keep informed about the Jewish community in general, and the Jewish community in your area. There are literally hundreds of local Jewish bulletins based on your geographic area, you can subscribe to most of them for free.
  10. Be patient and keep a positive attitude.


Passover is almost here..
Fresh, young and creative Jewish Humor, and some very good advice regarding your Matzah leftovers. Timeless Jewish humor by Michelle Citrin and William Levin. Michelle Citrin is no other than the talented Rosh Hashanah girl. You can check her: ‘I Gotta Love You Rosh Hashanah’ video right here



iStock_000002807197XSmallHow many dating methods allow you to meet the person of your dreams for the comfort of your home? Online dating is definitely one of them, perhaps the only one. With 20 million active participants and theoretically an unlimited supply of fresh prospects, this methods becomes more and more mainstream and practically everybody knows someone who dated online. Using it, is one thing, but using it to its full limit can make a major difference.

Here are ten key elements to follow for a better, more productive experience.

Key Element #1 : Positive attitude -

Sounds like a no brainer, Right?  and yet I meet so many people who just don’t have enough faith in the process. Why? I am not sure. Internet dating is probably the best, most productive and fun way to meet people. Give it a fair chance and accompany it with a fresh positive perspective. If you are not a computer person, don’t worry. Most internet dating sites (and certainly Yenta911.com) are user friendly and extremely easy to use.
Key Element #2:  Beginning slow and gaining momentum -

Like any new experience, online dating can be overwhelming. Make sure you take it slowly, that way you will not run our of steam so quickly.

Key Element #3: Avoiding discussions of your previous relationship woes -

When you talk about past troubles, you come across as a negative person. In addition, your prospect may think that you are no over your past relationship and perhaps not ready to start a new one. Make sure you save this type of discussions for a later, more advances stage of your relationship.

Key Element #4:  Writing an essay that reflects you -

A lot of people dread that part of writing an essay. However, serious dater actually read this, and not only, what you say in your essay it amplified greatly, since that’s the only piece of information they have got on you. Make it work, take advantage of it, and make it be a reflection of who you are. Creating a fake image through your essay will greatly disappoint your prospect, once he/she gets to meet you. Don’t let anyone write the essay for you, unless you also want to send them on your dates.

Key Element #5: Remembering that the number of Psychos on the internet reflect real life -

The internet is a microcosm of society, no a separate branch. Most horror stories about online dating are media hype looking for something juicy to fill the space between the ads. The fact is that the power of anonymity unique to online dating, gives one an increased security over face to face dating.
Key Element #6: Not taking each internet contact to seriously -

Not everybody adhere to the same etiquette and rules in online dating . If you find that someone was offensive, disrespectful or plainly not very nice. Or if you find it hard to get rejected. Remember not to take every contact so seriously and don’t let this feeling spoil your experience. There will always be another one.. after all this is an online dating service.

Key Element #7:  Resting from time to time -

It is alway good to take a few breaks from online dating, and come back with a fresh new perspective. Having so many people to choose from,  and sometimes so many unsuccessful contacts, can be discouraging , and overwhelming. Take a break every now and then. Let other people approach you, build your pipe-line and resume your efforts.

Key Element #8: Reconsidering your non-negotiable criteria -

Internet dating is very unique in that sense that it allows you to find people based on criteria such as eye color, hair color, height, weight, income etc. If you find that in this pool of people that you choose, you can’t find your perfect match, it may be time to re-consider your ‘must have’ list.

Key Element #9:  Posting a photo immediately -

Most daters do not respond to profiles without a picture. Don’t let opportunities pass you by, if you are serious about online dating, post a picture immediately.

Key Element #10: Knowing when to let go to a process and move to the next one -

When you discover an piece of information about a potential match, that makes you feel like the prospect is an inappropriate match, don’t waste your time. Trust your instinct and let go. Having said that, we highly recommend that you visit your  ‘non-negotiable’ criteria and make sure that your decision process is not too rigid and you actually gave a fair chance to the prospect.

Internet dating is one of the most, productive, secure and fun way to meet singles today.  Make user that you utilize your subscription and your experience to its limits. keep a positive attitude, Begin slowly, take a break every now an then, don’t take every prospect to seriously, make sure you gave a fair chance to suitable prospect, but also know when to let go, and don’t forget to have fun.

 

Smiling Nerd offering a flower.Online dating can be a fun, easy and a fairly painless way to meet other singles. However, like anything else in life, new experiences are almost always preceded with a learning curve, and until you get the hang of it, you would probably make numerous mistakes. Here are the 10 common online dating mistakes, especially among new online daters, that you should be aware of:

1. Not being honest in your profile-

This is probably one of the most common online dating mistake. The things people commonly lie about are age, weight, height and income; not very different than real life. However, can work against you in the online scene, and should be avoided. If you must lie in your profile because you feel you are unfairly filtered in search results, for example, you are in your 50s, but look much younger, or your weight sounds high, but really you have heavy bones, please make sure that you explain those issues in your essay responses. That way your relationship does not start on the basis of a lie.
2. Submitting an old inaccurate photo of yourself -

Submitting a photo that is outdated or does not resemble you, may initially attract your prospect, but once you meet in person, he/she will be extremely disappointed. If there is a picture you like in particular, but is not accurate anymore, post another one that is accurate.
3. Not posting a profile picture -

most people will not even bother reading a profile that does not have a picture. As much as we don’t want to admit it, the profile picture is one of the first thing a dater looks at to decide whether to even begin reading your profile. People who do not submit their photo come across as insecure or perhaps overly cautious, both not so attractive attributes when it comes to online dating. Luckily most non-free online dating sites (paid online dating sites), do not allow to post a profile without a picture, allowing you to avoid this common mistake.

4. Talking about sensitive topics in your essay, especially being political, racist overly sexual or even talking about the desire to marry and have kids -

Unless this is a niche dating site, that is dedicated to this specific topic, it would be wise not to touch those issues in your initial essay, or at least be very careful. People come from different backgrounds with different points of views, and issues and topics that may be categorized by you as appropriate might be offensive and uncomfortable to other people. This may put prospects off and in extreme cases may get you banned by the dating service. If those issues are very important to you, you can give some hints in your essay, but be careful, take it slow and when your e-relationship progress, you may be more open about it.

5. Mentioning past failed relationship very often -

your essay and first emails tend to amplify what you say, so any hint of negativity can work against you, especially if you mention past failed relationship very often. If your prospect will sense that you are bitter or not over a past relationship yet, he/she will may lose their interest.

6. Not being proactive -

Of all the online dating mistakes this is probably the most damaging one .Women only initiate one tenth of the amount of emails men write when it comes to online dating. Simply said, if men don’t initiate the first email, women most likely won’t either. So, whether you are a man or a woman, if you see someone you like, initiate contact ASAP. Women, if you don’t want to limit your selection only to those who contact you, choose to be more proactive, and you are likely to get ahead of the competition. In addition, most online dating services do not allow members to send or even reply your email, if they didn’t pay their subscription fee. For that reason there is no point waiting for them to initiate the first contact. However, if you send them an email, they might pay their subscription just for you!
7. Insisting on meeting in person right away -

Internet dating is not an electronic phone book of available singles, it’s a tool, that allows you to get to know people and to filter them based on their profile information before you give up your anonymity. Meeting someone right away, defeats the purpose of internet dating and not to mention can be dangerous. Insisting on meeting in person right away, may be off putting to your prospect. Also, you should always be suspicions yourself of daters who wants to meet immediately. If you choose to meet them, take extra caution. Meet them in a public place, tell someone where you are, and even have someone to check on you.

8. Sending the wrong email to the wrong person -

Although this does not happen very often, sometimes it’s hard to keep track of emails and sometimes usernames can be inconveniently similar. One potential mistake that can happen is sending a person whom you have already established with some type of e-relationship, an initial/flirt email, that was meant to someone else. This may make the prospect feel, like you are playing the field (most likely your are — since that’s what you are there for), and discontinue your relationship. Misdirected email is more common than you think and irreversible, so watch out!

9. Not asking for more information -

Internet dating is an excellent tool for gathering information about a prospect and finding out if you have any commonalities. Not asking for informations, pictures, videos, or anything that might make the first date less awkward, makes it just another blind date.

10. Being negative and jumping from one prospect to another to quickly -

The right positive attitude in an important thing whenever you embark on a new venture. Dating is not an exception. Not having the right mind set can be very damaging to your online dating experience. With a never ending supply of fresh prospects, you should have a positive mind set, that one of them is the right one. However, this can be a two edged sword, since with so many prospects, you may feel that you can always do better and not spend enough time with a potential prospect to find out if they may be right for you. A way to potentially avoid this problem is to think positively and have a vivid clear idea or what you are looking for in a mate.

Internet dating can be a fast, productive and relatively painless way to meet other singles. With theoretically limitless number of fresh prospects, online dating offers singles what no other dating methods had offered before. However, like in all new ventures you embark in life, there is a learning curve until your get the hang of it; learn from other people’s experiences and avoid their mistakes for better, more productive online dating results.

 

Great Book Gifts For Your Jewish Friends – Inspirational Fiction Book Review
By Lance Winslow

Do you have a Jewish friend and unsure what to get them; are you from a Jewish family and want to get something really smart as a gift? Well, then boy have I got a book idea for you:

“The Big Kahn – A Fake Holy Man’s 40-year Lie” By Neil Kleid and Nicholas Cinquegrani; Nantier Bealle Minoustchine Publishing, Inc; Los Angeles, CA; ISBN 978-1-56163-561-0.

This is a great story, as it turns out a Jewish Rabbi, David Kahn, was never Jewish at all, and he never even knew it during his life time. Turns out the Rabbi’s brother breaks the news to everyone and his family at the Rabbi’s funeral and to the entire congregation. And what follows is a story that once you start reading you will not be able to put it down. If you are Jewish you will be quite amused at this book and will completely enjoy it and wish to pass in onto friends and family as a gift.

Speaking of great books for your Jewish friends Neil Kleid has also written another very good book, this time with co-author Jake Allen. It’s called; “The Jewish Gangster” (ISBN 978-1-56163-459-X) and it is a great story, one which will suck you in and another book you are not going to be able to put down, as it is witty, moving, and intelligently written as well.

And you’ll even learn about Brooklyn’s Brownsville Neighborhood as well. Indeed, I am going to recommend you buy both of these books. Well, I hope you enjoy reading these books as much as I.

Lance Winslow enjoys community philanthropy – Lance Winslow likes small business. Lance Winslow has also been involved in the Oil Industry; http://www.oilchangeguys.com/aboutus.shtml/.

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For all of us with a Jewish mother. You may find this YouTube helpful!

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How to Tell If a Guy is Serious About You
By Samantha Elutilo

So you have been dating a guy for some time and despite the fact that things are going well you do not know where you stand with him as he blows hot and cold with his affections and gives little away as to how he feels about you. Many women will analyze and over analyze the situation, seeking clues in which to affirm that ‘he is serious’ as though they are in denial of the true situation. This inevitably leads to heartbreak as they fail to read signs that he is just not interested. In order to give you a little insight into whether a guy is serious or not, read the following tips.

1: He calls when he says he will call - A guy who is serious about a woman will call. He will call her often and wish to talk about things in which the woman is interested in and to know about things going on in her life. He will make the time to call even if it is a few minutes when he is at work. In fact, he may not even notice the time as he chats with you. Conversely, a man who hardly calls and talks incessantly about himself with little regard for you is not interested. Nor, is a man who rather conveniently only calls you at night for the sole purpose of talking about explicit matters.

2: He does not call you at the last minute – A guy that calls at the last minute to ask what you are up to or fails to make arrangements for your next meeting at least three days in advance could just be spontaneous and adventurous however, watch him over time to see whether he is genuinely calling you because he really wants to spend quality time with you or whether his previous plans have fallen through and you are his next best option.

3: Convenience - When you and your boyfriend meet up does it usually involve renting a movie and going back to his home where his bed happens to be close by? Whilst it is romantic to spend time indoors, if this is the usual pattern and your man fails to take you out watch him as he may not be serious about you and only seeks your company for his own convenience and gratification.

4: He makes time for you - As a guy falls for woman, he seeks to make her a priority in his life. His time spent enjoying football with the boys will take a back seat in favour of spending time with you. He will want to spend time with you and enjoy partaking in the things you enjoy doing.

5: He wants to impress you – A man who is serious about you will want to look his best in your eyes. He will begin to take note of the way he dresses, grooms himself and will genuinely want to improve himself. When in a department store, he may ask you your opinion when trying on new clothes. To him, your opinion is valued.

6: It is in the eyes – It is often said that when we are attracted to someone, our pupils dilate and this is so true. There may be times when you may catch your man off guard and he is staring at you with dilated eyes. The longer he holds his gaze sometimes demonstrates the affection he has for you. It could also be a lustful stare however, if he is showing you signs of commitment in your relationship, be assured that he is indeed serious about you.

7: He will go all out for you – You have a sick relative who lives miles away and its 4am in the morning. You urgently want to see them. A man who loves you will think nothing of going out of his way to do something that he knows means a lot for you. In some cases, he may forgo his own needs so as to put yours first and would not give a second thought to being there for you. In other areas of your relationship, he may find himself starting to like the things you like such as music artists, types of food wine, TV programmes.

8: He introduces you to family and friends – For most guys bringing you home to meet his parents and friends are a big deal for him and shows that he is serious.

9: He allows you to keep your things at his place – A man can be territorial, meaning that he likes his space in his home and does not like anything to infringe that. So to you, leaving your toothbrush at his home is no big deal but to him it is like you are making yourself at home. Now, if he is serious about you, he will not raise an eyelid to you doing this. In fact, he would not care if you left your whole make up bag, shoes and whatever else you chose to leave in his home. However, if he is not serious about you, he may just remind you to take your things when you leave.

10: He does not tell but shows you – Yes, you read right. A guy who is genuinely serious about you may not necessarily declare it but will show it by being consistent about his intentions towards you. He will be affectionate and romantic and not blow hot and cold nor leave you in the lurch without a valid reason. When he eventually feels confident to tell you know that he is serious about you, you would already know because his actions ’show’ commitment and seriousness. Therefore whilst dating your guy watch his actions over a period of time to see if what he says and what he does match up. If not, you need to re-think your relationship.

11: ‘I’ becomes ‘we’ - When referring to himself does he often include you and say ‘we’ as though you are a couple. If he is thoughtful enough to mention ‘we’ it shows that he is no longer taking his needs solely into account and is beginning to truly value your relationship.

Samantha is a Certfied Life Coach specialising in career, parental and confidence building coaching as well as offering generic coaching. To find out more about this and to acquire further articles, please view http://www.positive-vision.co.uk.

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